Take the leap to a better relationship.
Couples Counseling
In-person in Edmond & online throughout OK.
Do you find yourself struggling in your relationship? Let’s work to make it better.
Is your marriage at a breaking point? Did you just discover that your partner is unfaithful? Or perhaps you both feel stuck and just want more?
Most of my clients are couples. I’ve helped couples work through the betrayal and difficulty that comes with infidelity. I’ve helped couples who just feel their connection slipping become more connected and communicate more effectively. I’ve also helped couples come to the difficult decision to go their separate ways in the best way possible for themselves and their families.
Whatever your issues might be, I can help you find the solutions and tools to ease your concerns.
John Gottman, renowned marriage researcher, has said, “Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.” I also believe that, in part, the small things are what heals relationships. I work with you both to communicate your feelings and needs to help you both feel more connected and to increase the desire in your relationship.
I have also trained in emotionally-focused therapy, and evidence-based treatment for couples therapy. Sue Johnson, the developer of this theory, remarks, “To achieve a lasting bond, we have to be able to tune in to our deepest needs and longings and translate them into clear signals that help our lovers respond to us. We have to be able to love and to reciprocate.” And I think that is an excellent summation of what couples work should look like. We learn how to better love and reciprocate.
WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER
Couples counseling can help you:
Identify your strengths & goals
I think knowing what we do well and what we need to work on is imperative to heal. I can help you discover this within your relationship dynamics.
Find deeper connection
Connection is what makes our relationships fulfilling and meaningful. I see it as an essential aspect to help you both learn how to connect both emotionally and physically.
Heal impactful wounds
We often enter relationships with baggage from our families, prior relationships, and trauma. A piece of our work together is healing these past wounds to connect with our partners. And often there are wounds within our current relationships that need healing, too.
Common questions about couples counseling
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Couples counseling is hard work. The majority of our sessions will be together, although I do occasionally break them up and do individual sessions to gather some family history, explore commitment levels, etc.
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Very rarely will I work with one of the partners individually. Most often, if individual therapy is something that would be useful to explore, I will help you find some options of other therapists to work with.
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My biggest tip here is to find someone you both feel comfortable and safe with. Counseling explores the depths of our souls, our hurts, our strengths, our fears… And the biggest things that makes therapy work is the relationship you build with your therapist.